By Michael R. Phillips
“Look at your young men fighting / Look at your women crying / Look at your young men dying…”
Have you ever heard a song that didn’t just hit — it cracked your soul open and poured your pain into soundwaves?
For me, that song is Civil War by Guns N’ Roses.
It’s not just the haunting intro — that infamous quote from Cool Hand Luke — that sets the tone. It’s the entire unraveling of a world gone mad, where war isn’t about battlefields anymore. It’s about broken homes, courtroom wars, and the collateral damage called our children.
“What we’ve got here is failure to communicate.”
That’s it. That is the family court.
No one is listening. No one wants to listen.
You file a motion, you plead for parenting time, you ask for justice — and you get silence, a shrug, or worse, a rubber stamp of your child being legally kidnapped in slow motion.
🎤 A War by Any Other Name Still Breaks You the Same: Family Court Civil War
When I first heard Axl Rose snarl:
“We practice selective annihilation of mayors and government officials…”
…it didn’t feel like metaphor anymore. It felt like reality.
Not that anyone’s literally being eliminated in family court — but reputations are. Relationships are. Financial futures are. Mental health is. And every courtroom “win” for one parent often means a devastating loss for the other — and an even greater wound for the child caught in the middle.
This isn’t just some messy breakup. This is a civil war.
And the frontlines are your inbox, your bank account, your child’s bedroom, and the judge’s bench.
💸 “It feeds the rich while it buries the poor…”
The song doesn’t pull punches, and neither does the system. Family court has evolved into a Kafkaesque meat grinder that takes your money, your hope, and if you’re unlucky enough — your kids.
“You wear a black armband / When they shot the man / Who said ‘Peace could last forever.’”
Well, peace doesn’t pay legal fees, does it?
There’s money in war. There’s money in conflict. There’s money in keeping you in the system.
Meanwhile, those of us just trying to be decent parents? We’re left with visitation scraps — if we’re lucky. And when we speak up?
“You can’t trust freedom when it’s not in your hands / When everybody’s fightin’ for their promised land…”
The promised land, for me, is a few more days with my son.
Not much to ask.
But apparently too much for the machine to grant.
🩸“Your power is in the blood…”
What makes Civil War hit different is how it doesn’t glamorize war — it exposes it. Family court doesn’t deliver justice; it delivers casualties.
“We all fought in a battle / And no one won…”
That lyric — no one won — it’s the truest sentence ever sung about family court. Even the “victor” walks away with scorched earth and a child emotionally limping through life.
This isn’t just about my story. It’s about the thousands — maybe millions — of parents on both sides caught in a judicial system that prioritizes process over people and profits over peace.
⚖️ The Soundtrack to Systemic Failure: Family Court Civil War
I never thought a 1991 rock anthem would explain my 2025 custody battle. But here we are.
Family court is the last battlefield no one wants to admit we’re fighting on. A place where civil rights evaporate, hearsay wins, and your relationship with your child is treated like a negotiation — or worse, a threat.
“What’s so civil about war anyway?”
Exactly, Axl.
There’s nothing civil about family court.
It is legal warfare waged against the very people most children need the most — their parents. And we’re told it’s “in the best interest of the child.”
But if you’ve ever watched a child cry because they can’t see their dad — or their mom — due to some bitter legal ruling?
You know damn well what we’ve got here.
Failure to communicate.
And no, I don’t like it any more than you men.
📣 If This Hits, You’re Not Alone: Family Court Civil War
If this song hits you the way it hits me, then you know:
We’re not fighting alone.
We just need a louder chorus.
The Use Your Illusion albums might as well be the unofficial soundtrack of family court warfare. It’s basically a rock opera of emotional breakdown, betrayal, rage, and broken love — aka Tuesday in family court.
👉 If this war feels familiar — you’re not alone.
Join the fight for fairness, fatherhood, and real family court reform.
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Because the more we speak up, the harder it gets for them to silence us.
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Michael R. Phillips
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